Worst Date Ever!

Guest Blogger-Trish McCallan

Hi all! I’m Charly, Rebecca’s assistant. We thought it’d be fun to do a ‘Romance: The Good, the Bad, and the Disastrous’ theme with guest bloggers throughout the summer months. Every Monday and Thursday, we’ll have a guest blogger talk about fun stuff like horrible dates, good dates, etc. Some bloggers will have a contest, and some won’t – it’s totally up to them. If there is a contest, I’ll randomly draw a winner from the post comments, send the winner’s email address to the guest blogger, and they’ll take it from there. Rebecca will jump in and blog when she can. For now, enjoy as we play!

profile picFirst off, my thanks to Rebecca Zanetti for sharing her space with me today and to Charly Alexander for the professional presentation of this blog. Ladies—your generosity and skill are very much appreciated!

This is going to date me, but what the heck. b and w smiley face

In the mid 1990’s I discovered Linda Howard and Suzanne Brockmann. Howard and Brockmann quickly became two of my favorite authors, mostly because of their super sexy, super alpha, military heroes. I LOVED Howard’s Mackenzie family series as well as Brockmann’s Tall, Dark and Dangerous series. So when a good looking naval officer asked me out, I said yes (Internally, I may have squealed a bit in excitement.). I was so looking forward to finding my own, flesh and blood military hero.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t what I got. What I got was the worse date of my life. frowny face

At the time I was training for a marathon, which meant early morning runs before working out with weights in the gym and I was in great shape. Which my new beau didn’t appreciate. On our first date, he put his arm around my waist to escort me into the restaurant and made the comment that “he liked more curves and softness and less muscle on his women.” Yeah, not the best start to a date. During the conversation at dinner, he said at least three or four times that he didn’t like his women to exercise because he liked softness in bed. By that point I already knew that bed was off the table—like forever.

After dinner, we went to see some action packed adventure movie and during the movie this guy continued hammering home his point about muscles versus softness. When the date was over, he took me back to my apartment and said, “How about you lay off the exercising so we can see where this goes?”

At this point I’d had enough and decided to respond in kind. So I said “You know I understand completely how you feel. I can’t stand softness in my men. I want a man to feel like a man. You know, muscles rather than softness. So how about you start getting some exercise so we can see where this goes?”

Let’s just say that quip didn’t go over well. There was no goodnight kiss. No hug. Just a frosty “good night” and he was out the door.

But, surprise, surprise, he called a few days later and apologized for the comments he’d made and asked me to give him another chance. Well, I thought that was pretty decent of him considering how I’d responded at the close of our first date, so I said sure. He told me he wanted a fresh start and was taking me to Antonio’s, one of the fancier restaurants in town—which meant fancy clothes. I didn’t have anything quite so classy, so I ended up buying an outfit, which I couldn’t afford, but I didn’t want to look out of place.

When the night he was supposed to pick me up rolled around, he never showed. I waited for over an hour in my new, pricey outfit before I admitted that he’d stood me up. I suspect the no show was revenge for my comment since he never called to explain. From a mutual friend I know he was in town and on base. He hadn’t shipped out. There hadn’t been a death in his family. He hadn’t contracted some sudden, life threatening disease.

So, all in all, my introduction to Naval Officers left a lot to be desired, which makes it kind of ironic that the heroes of my Red-Hot SEALs series are all officers in the United States b and w smiley faceNavy. And yeah, a couple of them do end up on their heroines’ worst date lists.


Trish McCallan was born in Oregon and raised in Washington State, where as a child she sold her first crayon-illustrated books for a nickel. This love of writing led her to study the craft at Western Washington University. She worked as a bookkeeper and a human-resource specialist before trading in her day job for a full-time writing career. Her debut novel, Forged in Fire, went on to final for two prestigious Romance Writers of America RITA® awards. Forged in Ash is her second book, finaled for a RITA® award as well. She currently resides in eastern Washington with three golden retrievers, a black lab mix, and a cat.

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Forged in Ash:

ForgedinAshKait Winchester inherited a special gift from her Arapaho ancestors: she can heal with her touch. And there is no one she would like to get her hands on more than the super-sexy SEAL who seems determined to ignore their off-the-charts chemistry. When the wounded warrior finally seeks her help, she’s ready to nurse him back to health…and into her bed.

Navy SEAL Lieutenant Marcus “Cosky” Simcosky is no stranger to hot water, but recent events have boiled over into one hell of a mess. His team is under investigation for a hostage rescue gone wrong, a crazy female stalker is on his trail, and the last few bullets he took just may sideline him for the rest of his career. The kicker? The one woman who can help him get back on his feet—and has haunted his fantasies for years—is his teammate’s sister. He’s looked but never touched. When his stalker targets Kait, though, Cosky will have no choice but to do whatever is necessary to keep her safe.



I’m giving away two Kindle eBooks or two signed paper copies of Forged in Fire and Forged in Ash (winners’ choice). To enter the drawing, all you have to do is post in the comments. Any comment will get you entered, but I’d love to hear some of your worst date stories, so please share!

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30 thoughts on “Worst Date Ever!”

  1. Mary Preston says:

    On a first date he turned up with his mother. Very Norman Bates!!

    1. Wow, that sounds like a momma’s boy for sure. LOL Did you take one look and head for the door? 🙂

  2. Aleisha says:

    Worst date ever would have to be with this guy my friend set me up with in high school because her BF was his buddy. We double dated and met them at the local coffee house. Date started off bad when the guy went to offer me a drink and sneezed. Dumped it all over me before we even said hello! Then he tried to clean it off, very inappropriately, and spilled his drink all over me too. My gf was horrified, I was embarrassed, and the guy says, well I should get you home and out of those clothes! It was probably meant well but I just walked out the door and didn’t look back.

    1. Aleisha, that certainly qualifies as a terrible date. O-O So did you ever run into him again? I bet he was pretty embarrassed too. 🙂

  3. desiree says:

    That was an awful date!!!! My awful date was going to a friend’s prom with him. I was being nice he liked more than a friend and I didn’t know. I also had never touched him before the prom. We went to dinner at a nice restaurant with other friends and he brushed my hand at the table and Omg I got tingles and not good kind. The kind that makes you go eeeeewwwww get away from me. I spent the entire dance trying to get away and afterwards went to dessert and I spent the entire time in the opposite side of restaurant with a group of other people who were offering to take me home.

    1. Desiree,

      That’s a terrible position to be in. 🙁 And there you were just trying to be nice. As romance writers we explore the tingles and chills of attraction. But yeah, I’ve had really negative reactions to men before too. Sometimes the tingles and chills are ominous rather than sexy.

  4. I love sexy hot men!

  5. bn100 says:

    no bad dates to share

    1. Lucky you. 🙂 Although I’m getting some great book ideas from these terrible first date stories. LOL

  6. Donna says:

    Looking forward to starting your books.

    1. Thank you, Donna!
      I hope you enjoy them. 🙂

  7. Timitra says:

    Don’t have a bad date story

    1. No problem Timitra, we’ve got you entered in the drawing. 🙂

  8. Xenia says:

    That made me laugh – isn’t it normally the other way round? being told to excercise? 😀 hmm.. probably my worst date was a guy I’d ‘met’ via match.com or something like that, he was from an hour or so away from me so arranged to come down for the day. Here’s a tip for all of you who may never have done the online dating thing… unless you’ve already met them never, ever organise a whole day thing regardless of how far away they live! Within 5 minutes he had his arm round me and then wanted to hold hands all day, while we talked about our future (huh??) and not only that but he was 6’2 which I love but skinnier than anything – his wrists were smaller than mine and I have small wrists and it just gave me the heeby jeebies. It was the longest day ever!

    1. Xenia, thanks for coming over and playing! Now days he wouldn’t have to tell me to quit exercising. I’m much more pillowy than muscley. LOL

      That guy from match.com would have driven me crazy. Way too needy. My Goldens are about all the neediness I can stand. 🙂

  9. Cathryn Cade says:


    Oh, the dates we go through to find the right guy! It sounds like your naval man was a complete control freak, so I pity whoever he ended up with.

    I was stood up by a cop when I was in college–so much for those men in uniform.

    I’m off to buy your book and see if she has any better luck …


    1. Cathryn,

      I had a pretty bad experience with cop when I was fresh out of college and working swing shift in a mini-mart. Not a date, but I’d called 911 after a weird crazy guy grabbed me and said he was going to stab me. The guy ran off as soon as another customer showed up. I called the cops, because I was afraid he was going to come back. And the officer who investigated brushed it off, accusing me of letting my imagination get the better of me. A half an hour later one of the clerks (a burly male clerk) from a mini-mart further up the valley reported an identical incident, so the cop who’d brushed me off and left without doing anything showed back up to get a full story and description. Really left me angry and disgusted with how I was treated until a “man” collaborated my story.

  10. sandra etters says:

    I had to go on a date with a guy that my mom picked out for me. It was the worst date ever we had nothing to talk about. He just came because his mom and mine were friends. I couldn’t wait to get it over with and I had to pay for my own food too. He did pay for the movie.

    1. Thankfully my mom never tried to set me up with anyone. I had friends whose mother’s set them up for some disastrous dates.

  11. Jennifer says:

    It’s ironic but cool that you didn’t let the bad experience turn you against naval (or any) officers and now have them as your story heroes.

    1. I actually dreamed the entire opening sequence of Forged in Fire–at the time I was working on a series where the heroes were Law Enforcement, but the dream totally derailed that book/series. LOL

      From the dream on it was Military heroes all the way. (until recently, anyway.) 🙂

  12. megan elliott says:

    My worst date was actually with my now husband we went to dinner and it was just quite the whole time crickets churped so when he offered to get drinks i was all over it well we ended up at a gay bar doin a drag show and we were in the front he got so nervous about all of it he split his whole drink in my lap!! Thankfully he gave me his jacket to cover and took me home. Then called the next day to try again he just got so nervous he never thought id say yes to our fist date lol.

    1. That’s so cool you gave him another change Megan. Just think of the memories you’ll have on your 50th anniversary. 🙂

  13. Brenda says:

    Oh my— I laughed so hard at your worst date story, and then I made my husband listen to some of the guys comments. What a tool!

    I don’t have a worst date, but this is still rough. I had been recently divorced and a girl I considered a good friend at work “fixed me up” with her best friend. Asked him take me home, and kept trying to get us together. There was no chemistry and he was nice, but obviously not interested. It was rough because my confidence level was pretty low. Years later I found out he was gay and didn’t want to tell her. LOL Right after that I met my husband, so it all worked out:)

    1. Oh Brenda,

      That IS rough. He could have told you though, right? At least your confidence wouldn’t have taken such a hit. Glad you found one of the good guys and let him catch you. 🙂

  14. I loved that you had such a quick comeback. I hope you were able to return the dress you bought, back then… or at least found another hot date to wear it on 😉

    1. It wasn’t actually a quick comeback- I’d been rewriting the retort all night in my mind and getting it just right. LOL I’m pretty bad at spur of the moment quips. I wasn’t able to return the dress, since it had been on sale. Nor did I need anything that fancy for my usual hangouts, so it ended up sitting in the back of my closet for years. I don’t think I ever ended up wearing it. 🙁 Probably a good thing. I bet there was bad karma there.

  15. Charly says:

    UPDATE: The winners of Trish’s giveaway are Geneva Vaughn & Xenia. I have sent your info to Trish. Congrats!

    1. Xenia says:

      That’s great! thank you 🙂