Romance: The Good, the Bad, and the Disastrous: the Wedding Edition

Guest Blogger-Kate Meader

Hi all! I’m Charly, Rebecca’s assistant. We thought it’d be fun to do a ‘Romance: The Good, the Bad, and the Disastrous’ theme with guest bloggers throughout the summer months. Every Monday and Thursday, we’ll have a guest blogger talk about fun stuff like horrible dates, good dates, etc. Some bloggers will have a contest, and some won’t – it’s totally up to them. If there is a contest, I’ll randomly draw a winner from the post comments, send the winner’s email address to the guest blogger, and they’ll take it from there. Rebecca will jump in and blog when she can. For now, enjoy as we play!

KateM-headshotHey, everyone, Kate Meader here, writer of sexy, contemporary romance about chefs and firemen and Texans, to name a few of my hottie subjects. Now that we’ve hit summer in full stride, I thought it might be fun to talk about something that usually happens when the weather turns warmer: weddings. Not just beautiful, perfect weddings, however, but weddings where it didn’t go quite as planned. I’m sure everyone has been to a disastrous one—or perhaps had disaster strike their own. Mine, while I wouldn’t call it disastrous, definitely had a hiccup or two.

It all started in Italy… that’s where Mr. M. popped the question and über-romantics that we are, we decided to head back there a year later with thirty of our closest family and friends to make it official. I’m from Ireland, he’s a Bostonian, and Italy was neutral territory. Our story—sticking to it. Bonus: “It would keep the riff-raff out”, pronounced Mr. M, who didn’t want to splurge on 300 chicken dinners for a bunch of third cousins, twice removed. This way, the people who really wanted to celebrate with us would make the journey and get a fabulous vacation to boot. And it worked! We had a lovely mix of guests, a cosmopolitan bunch, all of whom wanted to stay with us at the villa we rented in Tuscany and none of whom wanted to actually drive in Italy. So twenty villa guests, four cars, you do the math. My future brother-in-law crashed an Alfa Romeo into the villa’s three hundred year old stone wall. Our honeymoon was spent ferrying guests around Tuscan villages. But before that, we got lost on the way to the castle where the ceremony was to be held. My mother misplaced her hat during the reception (though “hat” was pushing it—a piece of gauze attached to a KateM-wedding-daywafer-thin cap, really) and my new sister-in-law dumpster-dived in the trash cans behind the castle to try to find it. I’ll tell you, nothing bonds two families like searching through Italian rubbish.

The wedding itself went off without a hitch, despite the fact it was entirely in Italian and the celebrant looked like Andrew Lloyd-Webber. Later I found out that two of my friends had broken up with each other rather spectacularly during the reception. It could have been much worse, I suppose. At least the maid of honor didn’t drop the cake (that happened at my brother-in-law’s nuptials). Ours was a fairytale wedding in a tenth century Italian castle in the hills overlooking Florence. Can’t complain at all.

But I know you all have tales of wedding day horror. Tell me in the comments: what crazy thing almost upended your wedding or the wedding of a friend or loved one? One lucky commenter will get a digital copy of something from my backlist: choose from sexy chefs, alpha firefighters, or tortured Texans at


Originally from Ireland, Kate cut her romance reader teeth on Maeve Binchy and Jilly Cooper novels, with some Mills & Boon thrown in for variety. Give her tales about brooding mill owners, oversexed equestrians, and men who can rock an apron or a fire hose, and she’s there. Now based in Chicago, she writes sexy contemporary romance with alpha heroes and strong heroines who can match their men quip for quip.


“Hold off on touching yourself until I see you again. Think you could manage that for me, Tess?”

Her breath caught. She wanted to remember this moment later after whatever was happening between them had flat-lined and died.

~Excerpt from From EVEN THE SCORE, releasing July 21, 2015


KateM-EvenTheScoreEVEN THE SCORE, releasing July 21:

He’ll make her an offer she can’t refuse…

Actress Tess McKenzie is performing in the Tenth Circle of Showbiz Hell—dinner theater. All she really wants is to start a theater of her own. Then Tess receives an offer she can’t refuse. She’ll get her funding . . . if she pretends to be the fiancée to her nemesis, Texan property tycoon Hunter Dade. If she’s going to pull this off, she’ll need all the luck she can get. Break a leg, indeed.

On the verge of a big business deal, Hunter needs to hire a fiancée. He hasn’t quite forgiven Tess for ruining his wedding, but when their chemistry goes from combative to straight-up lust, the “no sex” clause in their mutually beneficial arrangement is tested. Which is a serious problem, because if Tess isn’t careful, she’ll go from breaking a leg to breaking her heart . . .

Amazon B&N iBooks GoodReads


Leave a comment about your crazy wedding experience for a chance to win an eBook from Kate’s backlist. You can see the entire list here: Open to international as long as Kate can gift it through Amazon.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

25 thoughts on “Romance: The Good, the Bad, and the Disastrous: the Wedding Edition”

  1. bn100 says:

    no crazy wedding experiences to share

  2. Kim P says:

    It wasn’t a disaster by any means, but I was attending my friend’s wedding with a group of mutual friends. A girlfriend of someone in my group wore a highly inappropriate dress, especially as the bride and groom are from traditional Asian families, and we all saw her underwear while she was dancing the night away during the reception.

    1. Kate Meader says:

      Ah, there’s always *that* guest.

  3. Elizabeth Breese says:

    We wish we had picked a neutral location! I’m from the south and my husband from Chicago. We got married in my hometown and there were disagreements between our parents literally from day 1. open bar vs no, etc….

    1. Kate Meader says:

      See? Best to keep the families on a tether with the important decisions, especially when it comes to how drunk you want your guests to be 😉

  4. Shari says:

    I broke out in the hives from nerves. That was before Benadryl was over the counter. Had to call the doctor for a prescription. Had to take for a few weeks afterwards.

    1. Kate Meader says:

      Oh no, Shari! That sounds awful. But now a bout of hives reminds you of your wedding day, right? *Silver lining to allergic reactions*

  5. Donna says:

    My husband and I had been together for 19 years, we were in no hurry to wed until Insurance became an issue. We went to Reno and found Silver Bells wedding chapel. They have a limo that takes you to the court house for the license and everything. We met a couple friends of ours at the chapel and we all piled into the limo, which was right out of the Elvis era. The driver shoved it into reversed and backed on to Virginia avenue at full speed without even looking for traffic on the main drag. Flying over hills and dips as if we were in an episode of Streets of San Francisco we survived the 6 block ride to the court house, where she slowed long enough to tell us to just come back out front when we were done and she would be driving around. After checking any pocket knives with security we went to the Marriage license window and had the wonderful view of the largest plumbers crack I have ever seen seated next to us. My husbands reply … “so, I have to check my 3 inch pocket knife with security, but this guy gets to walk in with that much crack?” Safely back at Silver Bells wedding chapel, we are told the minister has another ceremony down the street in 1/2 an hour and we have to quickly change and select our wedding package from Shelf number 3. Racing to the little chapel in our quickly changed clothes it comes to a screeching halt when they ask for the rings and everyone have to comment on the size difference between my size 6 ring and my husbands size 16. quickly back on track we get to the alter and the female minister begins the ceremony … with a lisp. We made it through the ceremony without laughing, but could not contain it once the minister said “alrighty then” and literally ran out of the chapel after pronouncing us man and wife. We have no been together for 28 years and will be celebrating our 9 year wedding anniversary this year.

    1. Kate Meader says:

      Donna — that is an awesome wedding story! I had a pretty long pre-marriage trial with my hubby, too (11 years) before we tied the knot. Married 10 years now. It sounds like you haven’t forgotten a single thing about your wedding. Those are some great memories 🙂

  6. Traci Westling says:

    I wouldn’t say it was a disaster but more of a beautiful MORBID blessing addition to ceremony… Because of finances & footing the bill ourselves we were limited for flower funds & opted for 2 solo alter arrangements ! Because our wedding was immediately after a funeral we were left an entire alter floor of beautiful flowers! It was a glorious bonus in a sad beautiful way.. Our wonderful hip priest cursed twice as he married us which lightened the atmosphere some only to learn he shortly left priesthood to sell jewelry in NY! 🙂 happily married 29 years 4/19/86!

    1. Kate Meader says:

      That *was* a gloriously sad bonus, Tracy! And I love your swearing jewelry-selling priest. I feel there’s a book character in there…

  7. I knew as I was walking down the aisle at my first wedding, I was making a mistake. I was too immature to back out and “disappoint” everyone but, oddly enough, I still cam out the winner!
    I had a wonderful set of twin boys five years later, left the “mistake’ and a few years later, met my beloved spouse of 42 years, who sadly, is no longer on this side of the mortal coil. But I have magnificent memories and two very fine young men with beautiful families of their own. So alls well that ends well.

    1. Kate Meader says:

      Kathleen, I love that you can see the blessing your mistake gave you, and that you were able to recognize that you deserved true love with the right person.

  8. Angela Guilherme says:

    A “friend” of mine has a problem with me that shows when he drinks… Every now and then he forgets he has a girlfriend (even if she’s right there in the same room) and starts coming on to me. Going to his wedding was surreal because I spent the whole day wondering when it would happen (yeah, when, not if). Sure enough by the end of the night he was giving me the puppy eyes… I turned to the friend I went with and we both said “Time to leave!”.

    1. Kate Meader says:

      So he has a not-so-secret crush on you that emerges when he’s had a few? Oh dear! That must be embarrassing for everyone involved, especially his gf/wife. I’d be avoiding him forever!

  9. Susan T says:

    dont have any crazy wedding experience to share

  10. Jan says:

    My tale of wedding torture started with my engagement. My parents had a bitter divorce and to this day don’t speak to each other. I wanted both to walk me down the aisle, and paid dearly for it. Coming down the steps after the rabbi married us, my heal to my shoe broke off. I spent my wedding in platform white sneakers, which thank goodness I bought as a joke. We say that my husbands first duty as a married man was to change my shoes!

    1. Kate Meader says:

      Wow, thank goodness for the sneakers, Jan, joke or not!

  11. Amanda says:

    I want to listen to others’ crazy wedding experiences

  12. Anita H. says:

    Hi Kate, your wedding pic is so gorgeous and your wedding seemed to be very eventful! I haven`t been personally involved in any wedding day horror stories but I used to work in banquets for a hotel so I`ve seen my share craziness. From wardrobe malfunctions to dropped cakes to tables of food or tables full of champagne glasses collapsing to fights between the two families, all I can say is for everything to work out is actually quite an amazing feat!

    Congrats on your new book, can`t wait to read Even The Score!

    1. Kate Meader says:

      Thanks for the congrats, Anita, and your lovely comments about my wedding pic. Working banquets and weddings, you must have seen it all 😉

  13. aretha zhen says:

    Hmmm it could be my cousin’s wedding experience. She was late to wake up in the morning, mind you she is a nosy sleeper as well. We ran as fast as we can to the church, but the car broke down and the disaster did not stop there. There is an accident between truck and towing car , so the cars could not move. We have to run with high heels and it was a total nightmare. We late to come to the church but all is well in the end, yayyyy we made it !

    1. Kate Meader says:

      Sounds like quite the adventure, Aretha — thanks for sharing!

  14. Charly says:

    UPDATE: The winner of Kate’s giveaway is Jan. I have sent your information to Kate. Congrats!

  15. rubykornman says:

    dont have any insane wedding background to share